The GAME of Happiness and Some Positive News for a Change -- April 2009
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Hi,
Welcome to the inaugural issue of the American Happiness Association monthly newsletter! This month, we introduce you to Sandi's Happiness GAME. We'll share with you some places where you can find some positive, upbeat news for a change. We include your monthly happiness challenge, where we answer a question about how to be happy when something difficult happens. We wrap up this edition with an action plan for you to get the most out of these ideas and to transfer them from this newsletter into your daily life.
Please mark your calendar for this month's teleseminar; it will make a difference in your life. Happy reading!
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1. The GAME of Happiness
Everyone likes games, right? In this case, GAME is a fun acronym that we can use to remind ourselves how we can intentionally impact our happiness. Here's what it stands for: G is for Genetic. We all have a genetically-inherited happiness set point that we were born with. Luckily, it can significantly change over time. A is for Activities. The activities we engage in can greatly affect our level of happiness. M is for Mental shifts. We can learn and practice tools to shift our minds into a happier mental state. E is for Environment. The environment we surround ourselves can increase or decrease our level of happiness. Let's go into a little more detail with each one of these categories.
Each of us is born with a disposition toward a certain level of happiness. About half of our happiness comes from our genetics. According to a well-designed study of twins by Tellegen and colleagues, happiness was found to be about 50% heritable.1 Scientists have collected the MRI images of individuals' brains and found that people with more activity on the left and front side of their brains tend to be the happiest. Conversely, people with more right frontal activity are unhappier. Neuroscientists have labeled this activity our happiness set points. 2 So does that mean we are stuck with the level of happiness we are born with? No. Science says that what we are born with is only a starting point. If we were dealt the low end of the happiness deck, all is not lost. It just may mean we need to work harder. The experiences we have in life can significantly increase or decrease the happiness level we are born with. Regardless of the set point you were born with, you can now consciously choose to bring more happiness into your life by choosing the activities, mental shifts, and environmental conditions that increase happiness for you. Activities The activities that we choose to bring into our lives strongly influence our happiness. Socializing with friends is an easy example of an activity that makes just about everyone happier. Examine your own set of activities. Make a list of the activities that you like the best. Things like hobbies are going to be personal to your likes and not universal. For example, not everyone likes to garden. Look over the list. Are there activities on the list that you wish that you could do more of? If so, what's stopping you from doing them more often? If there's a way you can arrange your schedule to accommodate more of the activities that make you happy, voila! Correspondingly, make a list of your least favorite things to do. The goal here is to brainstorm how to rid your schedule of these items! Can you delegate any of them (to people who love doing them)? Can you add something to them to make them more fun? For example, I have never been all that excited about cleaning my house. I turn on the soundtrack to the movie Amadeus, which includes Mozart's Requiem. Cranked up loud, I make wild sweeping composer motions while I dust the house. Now, housecleaning is almost fun for me. Mental shifts It's true, we literally can be our own worst enemies, or at least our minds can. That voice in your head can be so much meaner to you than your worst enemy. To be happier, we need to rid ourselves of thoughts, beliefs, and mindsets that promote negative thinking and hold us back from the greatness that we are. In an article in the spring 2006 issue of Tricycle, Andrew Olendzki said, "All experience is shaped within a matrix of cause and effect. Our mental attitude of aversion or pleasure is a product of one's dispositions - nothing more than learned responses built up during a lifetime of acting and reacting in the world - understand this and can have an immediate breakthrough liberating the mind." Environment
Create an inventory of each of the environments you spend time in. Note what your five senses take in. Is there anything that's just plain negative? Can you eliminate it or transform it? How can you adjust your environment to support and nurture who you are? A great example of an environment that is totally authentic to its owner is AHA Board member Dr. Aymee Coget's house. It's filled with happy face clocks and dishes, motivational posters, framed magazine covers with happiness as their cover story, lots of thriving plants, comfy pillows, and cozy chairs. How can your environment support you? GAME Remember the happiness GAME next time you're ready for a happiness booster. Work with your Genetics, Activities, Mental shifts, and Environment to get your boost of happiness.
1 Tellegen, A., Lykken, D.T., Bouchard, T.J., Wilcox, K.J., Segal, N.L., and Rich, S. (1988). Personality similarity in twins reared apart and together. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 54, 1031-39.
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How to Be Positively Happy in Today's Negative World April Happiness Teleseminar Tuesday, April 28, 2009 5:00 PM Pacific Daylight Time 6:00 PM Mountain Daylight Time 7:00 PM Central Daylight Time 8:00 PM Eastern Daylight Time How can we possibly experience happiness with all the negative stuff going on in our lives and the world? Layoffs, the economy, traffic, crime, bank failures, pirates, taxes, boring corporate meetings, terrorist threats, and depressing news stories, to name a few, can put a happiness damper on the most cheerful people you know. If you're like most people, you face many of these things every day, and they often end up ruining your day, dampening your mood, or getting you depressed. How can we live happily in such a toxic environment?
During the hour, you'll discover tools, keys, and habits that will help you create an environment that embraces you and helps you to be the best, happy person you can be. We'll also provide some tips on how to find more time and more energy. Who doesn't need that!? And the best part is happiness experts Sandi Smith and Dr. Aymee Coget will answer your personal questions and challenges about happiness. You'll have a chance during the question and answer session to ask Sandi and Aymee your toughest, most challenging questions. The teleseminar will be professional hosted and moderated by Jon Polmar, founder of TheSelfHelpSchool.com, PTATeleseminars.com and co-founder of TPGMarketing and The Polmar Group. Jon has been studying and leading teleseminars on a variety of self-help topics including the Hawaiian study of Ho'oponopono, Zen, Authentic Living and he moderates the Happiness Club's monthly teleseminars with Lionel Ketchian and Dr. Aymee Coget. Dr. Aymee Coget (pronounced Co jjayy) is founder of her own ground-breaking international happiness practice based in San Francisco, CA, USA, where she teaches groups, coaches individuals, and actively promotes sustainable happiness on the planet. The New York Times labeled Aymee the Suze Orman of Happiness. She's been featured in Bliss Magazine, is a regular blogger on Proctor and Gamble's Capessa and Yahoo! Health, and runs San Francisco's Happiness Club. Sandi Smith is President and Founder of BrainWays Training & Development based in San Jose, CA, USA where she helps companies create brain-friendly workplaces and helps individuals master fearlessness. She is one of a handful of females alive to co-pilot a single-engine airplane around the world. Sandi is an avid traveler and has visited 100 countries, including a backpacking trip alone around the world. Her volunteer work in Kenya, Russia, and Nepal earned her an AWSCPA Public Service Award and a Baird Community Service Award. Free to members! You don't need to sign up; you're already registered. We'll be emailing you dial-in instructions soon.
3. Finding Happiness in Failing
Each month, we'll ask and answer a happiness challenge you may be having. To submit a question, email sandismith@americanhappiness.org
How can I be happy when I fail at something I care about?
- Try, try and try again. Persistence pays off. Where would we be if Einstein was stuck in his unhappiness every time he failed? Get back on the horse and try again and learn from the mistake you made!
When I was a kid, I remember my dad coming home from work each day, sitting down to read the afternoon newspaper, and watching the 5:30 national news with Walter Cronkite. Watching the news is a national pastime; it's a huge part of our lives.
It's also much more negative than it has to be. And that's not healthy for our well-being.
Picture a tornado-shaped spiral where the spiral widens at the top. Positive emotions feed more positive thoughts and actions, which in turn feed more positive emotions, and so forth. People feel more like participating in activities, engaging with their environment, and meeting new people. That's the good news.
The converse is also true, however. If we experience negative emotions, such as from watching negative news stories, we work ourselves into the bottom part of the tornado, which is very narrow. Negative emotions feed negative thoughts and actions, which close our minds, narrow our thinking, and shut us off from approaching resources that can help us.
Do you think we're affected by the broaden-and-build theory when we watch negative news? Do you find yourself hunkering down and bracing for the worst? Remember that a great deal of this may be occurring on a subconscious level. We may not have known why we weren't getting out more; we just weren't.
How can we change directions and move into the upward part of the spiral? Here are some possible solutions:
Remember the February unemployment report? Bleak indeed. Here's another way to look at it that wasn't reported:
http://www.happyherald.com/
http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/greatergood/
http://www.goodonyaaustralia.com.au/
1 Fredrickson, Barbara L. (2001). The Role of Positive Emotions in Positive Psychology. American Psychologist, 56:3, 218-226.
Find one idea in this newsletter that you like, and bring it into your life as a new happiness habit.
It might be to make a list of the activities you like the best and to see how to do them more often.
It might be to view one of the good news sources listed above.
It might be to bring something beautiful into your environment that nurtures you.
It might be to think about your natural happiness set point and how you can move it to the left.
If you're an overachiever, it might be to do all of these things!
What are you doing still reading? Get busy on your new habits!
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With happiness,
Sandi Smith
COO, American Happiness Association
408.971.1104
AmericanHappiness.org
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